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A taste of Vienna

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It was a café like no other I had experienced. Normally the sole focus of any trip to a coffee establishment is a book, my laptop, an acquaintance or two, or even the coffee itself. But here, in Vienna’s Café Dommayer, it was so much more. It was everything. 

It was my first evening in Vienna and my Airbnb hosts had very kindly invited me to join them for the annual Summer Night Concert at Schönbrunn Palace. On our walk there we passed Café Dommayer. My hosts tantalisingly spoke of its coffee, delicacies and history. But for them words would not suffice, they wanted me to experience it for myself, and so despite time being against us, they excitedly ushered me in. 

Coffee houses in Vienna are an institution, a mainstay of its cultural fabric with its own distinct way of life. The first one opened way back in 1683 when, as tradition goes, Austrians chased away invading Turks who left behind something rather odd — coffee beans. Regulars over the years include famous names such as Sigmund Freud and Leon Trotsky, and at this particular establishment, Café Dommayer, Johann Strauss II performed publicly for the first time. 

In 2011, UNESCO (United Nations Educational, Scientific and Cultural Organisation) listed Viennese coffee houses on the intangible cultural list for Austria, saying that they have “a very specific atmosphere…where time and space are consumed, but only the coffee is found on the bill.”

Walking into Café Dommayer felt like entering into a bygone era, with small chandeliers, velvet red couches, thonet chairs and marble tables, along with waiters dressed in waistcoats and bow ties, all contributing to a classical, formal vibe. “This is Vienna!” my hosts proudly kept telling me. 

As we settled into our seats a lady sitting two tables’ away quickly grabbed my attention. Wearing a scarlet red tweed jacket, and with hair neatly bound in a bun, she studiously read the newspaper through her lowered oval-shaped glasses. But for the occasional glance and sip of coffee, her position and posture barely seemed to move, as if the surroundings offered little that was new or noteworthy. This is her everyday. If coffee houses such as this one typified Vienna, it felt as though this lady typified its clientele. 

Newspapers are an integral part of the furniture at Viennese coffee houses. But you won’t find them lazily folded together or hastily placed in a holder. Instead they are attached to wooden stick holders to neatly preserve their structure and encourage relaxed reading. Once finished the holders are placed in a station fixed to one of the walls, primed for its next reader. 

I am fortunate in that my hosts were not only able to guide me in my etiquette, but they also provided a running commentary on our surroundings. A large chunk of our chat involved discussing the waiters. It is a position that carries great honour, and they pride themselves on giving away little by way of friendliness. You could say they are surly— and to them it’s a high compliment. 

It was difficult to briefly tear myself away from the surroundings to choose what to have from the menu. But I soon realised that this in itself is part of the café’s cultural milieu given the sheer number of different coffees available. The challenge in choosing was made all the harder by not knowing what they all meant. I asked for help from my friends, and they highly recommended a melange (French for mix), which is one shot of espresso and a splash of hot water topped with hot frothy milk (or in other words, a cappuccino with a little extra water). To accompany it I opted for a slice of Austria’s famous sachertorte

I was firing away question after question at my hosts when our waiter came first with our cakes and then the coffees. The cups were dainty and each one was accompanied with a small glass of water to cleanse the pallet. Each glass had a teaspoon balanced on it to indicate that the glass has been freshly filled. Yet another quirk to this most fascinating of establishments. 

Unfortunately we couldn’t linger for too long once we finished our coffee (the melange was good but I missed having a bigger mug) and cakes (the sachertorte was tremendous, as expected) because the concert was due to start and we wanted to get a good spot. Our hasty exit felt like an insult to our hosts and Viennese tradition. Unlike some modern coffee shops, where extended stays can feel like an imposition, sticking around is encouraged, even if just one coffee is ordered. Viennese coffee houses are places for old school relaxation and social interaction. Little wonder that it’s said that they are like “an extended living room” for people. And with no laptop in sight, I wondered if those wanting to work know they will be better served — and perhaps more warmly embraced — elsewhere. 

I arrived into Vienna a few hours early feeling apprehensive and unprepared. There is a magnitude to the city’s history and status, and travelling alone and only staying for three days, I had little idea how to best navigate the city. I didn’t even know where to start. I thought reading the guidebook on my journey from Prague to Vienna would help, but it only added to the fear.

But little did I know that a quick trip to a classic Viennese coffee house would provide the perfect riposte to my fears. I had sampled a quintessential part of local life and tradition, and as I walked with my new friends to the concert I felt lighter. The task and privilege of seeing Vienna no longer seemed so overwhelming because within hours of arriving I had already tasted so much.

The kindest thing I ever saw ...

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I love stories about human kindness. It’s little surprise, then, that when The Guardian wanted to hear from readers about their own tales of humanity’s sweet side for their Upside series, I had to get involved. There were a few stories I could have chosen, but it was a recent observation at a train station that came to mind. I sent the story in and it was included in the piece. It’s one of many inspiring stories featured. So if you’re looking for a heartening, uplifting read, grab yourself a cuppa and enjoy these stories…

https://www.theguardian.com/world/2019/aug/26/upside-kindest-thing-i-ever-saw

The Unwritten and Untold

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The one story I seem to tell people the most from a trip I made to America in 2012 is a small episode at a sandwich shop I visited in Chicago. It was lunchtime and the queue was long. I thought I had plenty of time to get my head around the menu and work out what to have. I was so wrong. At the front of the queue, around 30 or so feet in front of me, was a cashier standing on a counter, loudly asking for people’s orders. I quickly realised she would soon be calling out to me. I panicked. This is not normal for me! I don’t want to shout my order, I have NO idea what I want and I am very shy – and British! I quietly hoped she would skip by me. She didn’t, obviously, and so I pretended I didn’t hear her. It didn’t work – it just annoyed her. I turned to her and timidly asked for a bit more time. She obliged, though this was no ‘take your time’ gesture; I knew she would return to me pronto. So I quickly picked a sandwich. I don’t think it was the best on offer, but time was short; careful deliberation was a no-go. I made my order and shared a relieving smile with the lady behind me who seem to sympathise with my predicament.

I always enjoy telling this story. And I have shared it with many people. On the same day I visited the sandwich shop I also went up Willis Tower and took a million photos of ‘The Bean’. I also sampled some AMAZING pizza. But I rarely talk about that. I instead tell people about what happened when buying a sandwich. On reflection, I wonder if this fits a broader pattern. Many of the stories I relish telling and hearing the most are often not the big and spectacular, where something particularly significant happens. Instead they are those small and seemingly insignificant happenings – a good few of which, at the time, can be on the annoying and awkward side. But these are stories, I think, which we all find especially easy to identify with and perhaps offer a more unique insight into us – our perspective, character, personality, feelings. And because of this, like the nudging of the first domino, it are these quirky stories that are oftentimes the prompt for others to follow suit and share their own similar tales.

There are a few other stories I frequently find myself sharing with others. There was the horribly awkward, blushingly-red incident as a waiter, where I dropped a piece of chicken in front of a table of wedding guests. It was painful. Still, the wedding guests had a good laugh. There was the routine train ride where I happened to be sitting next to another Christian. I realised this from a book he was reading. Too scared to begin a conversation with him, I took out a clearly Christian CD and conveniently placed it in his eyesight. It worked a treat. We chatted and, as my stop neared, he kindly prayed for me. There were the tourists in Cambridge who sheepishly approached me whilst I was waiting for a friend, convinced I was Prince Harry. They took some convincing to believe otherwise. And there was the plane journey in which very-tired-me sat next to very-talkative-stranger. After talking for a bit (pre-take-off) I put my headphones into my ear, assuming the chat was over. But that didn’t stop her – she was still in full-flow. I couldn’t help but smile.

Oddly, it are these stories that have got me excited as the new year gathers momentum. Our days are largely more ordinary than extraordinary. But many of the stories we tell our friends at the pub or over the family dinner table or whilst driving with friends – both now and the years to come – are the ones written in the ordinary. They are not momentous, life-changing or particularly revelatory. They may only last the briefest of minutes and, at the time, be painfully awkward. But in them we find a treasure that makes them worth sharing with others – time and time again. This year and beyond, God-willing, are many more pocket-sized moments that have yet to be written and so waiting to be told – one, two, twenty times. I have no idea what they will look like, but knowing that they could happen at anytime puts an added sparkle into each day.

After they have happened, I can’t wait to share them.

And I can’t wait to hear yours, too.

The Endless Wonder of Christmas

Another lunchtime, another trip to Sainsbury’s to pick up a few bits. But shortly on entering an aisle filled with dazzling Christmas decorations led me astray. What particularly caught my eye was a wooden star that lights up when switched on. At a not unreasonable price of £13 I took the plunge and bought it, figuring it would sit rather snug in my otherwise Christmas-less looking room.

Later on over dinner I replayed this minor episode to my family. It prompted a comment from my Dad which quickly felt significant in light of the dawning Christmas season. It was this: “It’s amazing the things you sometimes find when you’re out and about looking around. You just never know what you might come across.”

True of a trip to the shops, true more so of the Christmas story, a narrative familiar to most of us: busy angels, worshiping shepherds, curious wise folk, an unexpected and bizarre pregnancy, the inn, the stable, a guiding star, a baby. It’s the story of endless nativity plays, the picture of a thousand Christmas cards, the song of all those familiar, countlessly covered carols. We know the story by heart, even if the details are sometimes taken for granted. Three wise men and a donkey? Don’t be so sure.

But what I’ve found more and more over recent times is that by taking time to look at the stable story with a little more attentiveness and curiosity, it’s amazing what we might just come across. 

It still astounds me to think that Mary was a teenager when the angel appeared to her (believed to be somewhere between age 12 and 16). Not only that, she was from Nazareth (‘Can anything good come from there?’ someone in the Bible asks). Think about all of this for a moment: this young peasant girl, just taking in another normal day, and an angel drops in for a chat. That in itself is big news. But then there is the news the angel brings: she will give birth to Jesus, “Son of the Most High”. How did she feel in the moments after the angel departed? What did she do? Probably took a long lie down before doing anything else! Whilst she knew that Jesus would fulfil a big role, did she understand the extent to which he would radically shake the whole world? They’re the kind of questions that can, if we allow it, unleash a wave of awesome reflection.

Or what about faithful old Joseph? He looks to be a bystander on all of this, seemingly on the fringes, ready to quietly divorce Mary because of how people may perceive her unexpected pregnancy. But then an angel appears and tells him to halt his plan. Joseph’s got a role to play — and a big one at that. I can’t but be inspired by Joseph’s gentle, understated loyalty. And for him to be told that he is not to be peripheral in the unfolding drama but pivotal to it is a thought soaked in encouragement for anyone feeling as though they are on the sidelines of life.

Then there are the shepherds. Oh, to have been a fly-on-the-wall in the moments leading up to the angelic arrival! They were out there at night. It was dark, quiet, probably a bit dull and boring. But then a bright, brilliant light, the landscape changed in a thunderous instant, and with it news that something big is going down. Wow! I mean, what is going through their minds? How did they feel to be one of a select, privileged few to be told of this monumental happening? What looks did they exchange with each other? A baby? Wrapped in swaddling clothes and in a manger? A saviour? “Say what now?!” Before the news can sink in the angel is joined by “a multitude of the heavenly host praising God”. They must have pinched themselves to check they weren’t dreaming. Even on the most routine of days God can show up rather unexpectedly.

Advent is traditionally known as a time of waiting. There’s waiting 10 minutes in the queue at the supermarket (annoying, right?) and there is waiting 400 years. That’s effectively the amount of time between the last prophecy about the coming Messiah in the Old Testament and the birth of Jesus. I like to reflect on Simeon and Anna, two people mentioned in Luke’s gospel. Simeon was a devout man who had long waited for the promised Messiah. God had even told him that he would not see death before Jesus came. As for Anna, she was an 84-year-old widow who fasted and prayed day and night in the temple as she waited for Jesus. Their place in the pages of Scripture — and the opportunity they had to see Jesus face to face — is a beautiful reminder of the way God honours devotion to Him. If only a camera was available to capture the moment when the worn and worked hands of these two faithful saints touched the smooth, infant skin of the young Jesus…

This year it’s the magi (or wise men or kings) who’ve struck a particular chord with me. I’ve gotten so familiar with how they are portrayed in modern, western culture that I’ve failed to take a look around their story. One of many stories within the story. Some people regard the magi as astrologers or astronomers, people who studied the distant, glorious skies. Why did God bring them to the stable? Why did God use a star? I’m still working on all of this, but the sheer mystery of it all just astounds me. Next time you see me, do ask how I’m getting on.

The point of all of this is that it is amazing — amazing! — what we will come across when we see beyond tradition and familiarity and filter, to spend time taking a closer look into the heart of this significant, magnificent first Christmas. In doing so you just never know what you might find. This has been my discovery each Christmas in recent times, with something new always emerging from the old, well-rehearsed story. And it’s never just head knowledge. The detail, the revelation, goes deep into my heart. It speaks to my world, our world, and unfailingly it lifts me. It’s endlessly, tremendously alive. An eternal wonder.

But should we be surprised by this? After all, this is an event, I believe, that actually happened. And it happened because of a God who is love. In the person of Jesus Christ God humbly descended to the mud and mirth of our broken world to become Emmanuel, God with us. Let that settle deep: God with us, God with you. Some 33 years after his arrival, Jesus died and rose again, for the whole world. This means he is still alive today. He is still Emmanuel, still God with us. 

So of course the first Christmas can never be regarded as a mere happening. It was earth-shatteringly unique. The life of that first helpless cry from the baby Jesus lives on today. Everything about the nativity story is soaked in weighty, majestic love. There is nothing about the shepherds and young couple and gifts and Bethlehem and the star — and every other aspect of the story — that is incidental. Each was part of a beautiful tapestry of moments each carefully, thoughtfully considered by God. We can never plumb the depths of God’s being. We can only ever know so much. He is God, after all. Can we then ever plumb the depths of the Christmas story? I don’t think we can, which means there is always something to find, always something to speak into life’s seasons and questions. We simply must be curious enough to look for it — a bit like the wandering magi. 

This Christmastime I’ve again enjoyed walking the odd shop or two to see what gifts and goodies I will unexpectedly find. But much more exciting than that is the invitation to again take a closer look at the story and stories of that first Christmas. No matter how many times I come, and no matter how familiar the broader narrative feels, there always remains something wonderful to discover…

“But Mary treasured up all these things, pondering them in her heart.”  (Luke 2:19)

Happy Christmas!

xxx